If you are considering making an adoption plan, learn about all your options to figure out what is best for you. Placing a child for adoption is a huge sacrifice and takes courage and so much love. Sorting through the options of adoption, abortion, or parenting can be overwhelming, but you are not alone.
"I believe this truly at the root of all adoption placements. I have yet to meet a birth mother who just didn’t want to parent. Each birth mom story I have heard circles around to unselfishness. Placing her child is something she chose." Author Unknown
Here are a few things you need to know if you are considering making an adoption plan.
Why women choose adoption is different for everyone.
There are lots of different adoption stories but your story will be unique to you and your baby. This is YOUR placement, YOUR journey, and YOUR decision. You will have the chance to create your own story that is only yours.
Adoption is your decision.
Don’t let anyone pressure you into anything that you don’t feel comfortable with. If you don’t agree with your adoptive family or social worker, communicate your feelings and make sure it’s something you want. If you don’t feel comfortable communicating with your adoptive family, your social worker will be the mediator and will take care of your concerns. If you decide to move forward with an adoption plan, there are three main types of adoption choices:
Open: Biological and adoptive families have access to varying degrees of each other’s personal information and have an option of contact, sharing photos, or meet-ups
Semi-open: Non-identifying interaction is facilitated by a third party which is usually the adoption agency or attorney
Closed: Also called “confidential” adoption is a process by which an infant is adopted by another family, and the record of the biological parent(s) is kept sealed
You have individual rights.
Adoption is a legal matter. We believe in adoptions that are strong, safe, and transparent for all parties involved. You may be wondering if you can make an adoption plan without the father’s consent, have questions if you are a minor, or need information about the adoption laws in our state.
We can help connect you with an adoption agency or adoption attorney who are experts in the laws of the states that they are working with. They should help you understand your rights, the rights of the other parent, time-frames of when things can be done, and the finality of your decision.
Adoption can be an empowering choice.
In our line of work, we hear so many beautiful adoption stories. Women share how empowered they felt during their pregnancy and through the adoption process. Adoption is the ultimate act of love – love between a mother and child, love that creates a new family, and love of oneself. Making an adoption plan is selfless, courageous, and brave.
Make an appointment at Care Women's Center and speak to someone about adoption, abortion, and parenting.
We will never pressure you or tell you what you should do but instead, give you the resources you need to decide what’s best for you. Need an ultrasound first? We can also provide that at no cost to you.
We are not connected with any adoption agency and never profit from your decision.